Difference "Hate Polygamy Shari'a" and "Hate Polygamy"

Difference "Hate Polygamy Shari'a" and "Hate Polygamy"

Maybe someone said:

"Who are women who don't hate polygamy? If you don't hate it means she's not a woman. "

Some people claim that surely all women hate polygamy, which is hate (dislike) when their husband does polygamy, because all women want to be the only heart in the place of their husband. This needs to be explained that the difference between "hate polygamy sharia" and "hate polygamy":

1. "Hate polygamy shari'a" that is hate against this Shari'a and consider polygamy Shari'a not in accordance with human benefit and bring damage to the household and damage to society.

2. "Hate polygamy" that is hate which is a woman's instincts of jealousy, because this creates a sense of heaviness for the woman herself when she is polygamous.

1. Hate Sharia polygamy

This is echoed and promoted by hypocrites who do not like the teachings of Islam. They "ride" and provoke by utilizing the feelings of women to hate the Islamic law, one of them through polygamy. This can be seen from their attitude, if there are Islamic figures who commit polygamy they immediately speak out loud and loud and denounce polygamy, but they are silent about former president Soekarno who did polygamy or figures other than Islam who commit polygamy such as fertile grandparents and others .

They also denounced the Prophet sallalahu 'alaihi wa sallam for doing polygamy even though they themselves were Christians and Jews, of which the Prophets referred to in their holy books the Torah and the Gospels also carried out polygamy like Prophet Sulayman, Prophet Ibrahim, Prophet Ya'qub and others -other.

The point is they actually hate the teachings of Islam.

Allah says,

ذَلِكَ بِأَنَّهُمْ كَرِهُوا مَا أَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ فَأَحْبَطَ أَعْمَالَهُمْ

"That is because they really hate what Allah has revealed (the Koran) and Allah removes (merits) their deeds." (Surat Muhammad: 9)

Be careful, because hating one of the Islamic Shari'a is a big hypocritical sign that can expel someone from Islam. It must be obedient and obedient to the Shari'a, because Allah created the heavens and the earth and Allah knows best what is most troublesome to humans.

Allah says,

وما كان لمؤمن ولا مؤمنة إذا قضى الله ورسوله أمرا أن يكون لهم الخيرة من أمرهم, ومن يعص الله ورسوله فقد ضل ضلالا مبينا

"And is it not fitting for men and women who are (truly) believers, if Allah and His Messenger have determined a provision, there will be for them a choice (the other) about their affairs. And whosoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, surely he has gone astray with a manifest error. "(Surat al-Ahzaab: 36)

Polygamy also has the wisdom and benefits as explained by the scholars, provided that it is carried out by men who are just and responsible.



2. Hate Polygamy
That means women instinctively hate because of jealousy and dislike when there is another wife with her husband, then this is instinct for women. It's just that "hate this" should not lead to greater harm, such as being hateful towards polygamy Shari'a, or when a husband commits polygamy fairly and responsibly he still hates his husband.

Instinctive hatred is a human thing as the story of friends who "hate war" that is when they are disliked is required by war because of the sense of heaviness and human unpreparedness.

Notice the following verse, Allah says,

كتب عليكم القتال وهو كره لكم وعسى أن تكرهوا شيئا وهو خير لكم وعسى أن تحبوا شيئا وهو شر لكم والله يعلم وأنتم لا تعلمون

"It is mandatory for you to fight, even though fighting is something you hate. While maybe you hate something, even though it's very good for you. And may (also) you like something, even though it is very bad for you. "(QS. Al-Baqarah: 216)

Shaykh Abdurrahman As-Sa'di explained that the hatred in question was hate because of the impact of war, not hate against the war Shari'a. He said,

وأخبر أنه مكروه للنفوس, لما فيه من التعب والمشقة, وحصول أنواع المخاوف والتعرض للمتالف

"God proclaims that war is hated by the soul (instinct) because war creates a sense of heaviness and fatigue and the occurrence of fear and various destruction / destruction." (See Tafsir As-Sa'diy)


Likewise Al-Qutrhubi explained that this hatred was hateful behavior, he said,

وهو كره في الطباع

"That is the hate of human nature." (See Tafsir Al-Qurthubi)

Likewise with polygamy, Shaykh Muhammad bin Salih Al-Utsaimin explained,

والمرأة التي عندها غيرة لا تكره أن الله أباح أن يتزوج أكثر من واحدة لكن تكره الزوجة معها ، وبين الأمرين فرق ظاهر

"When a woman is jealous, she does not hate (Shari'a) Allah allows her husband to marry more than one (polygamy), but he hates the existence of another husband's wife who will be with him (sharing a husband). These two things (hate this) are distinctly different. "(Fatwa Syaikh Al-Uthaimin limallalld da'wah)

So, if a woman hates polygamy instinctively or the nature of a woman, then this is a natural thing, it's just that you don't hate this instinct to hate hatred of polygamy.